When it comes to our mothers, I am well aware that there are all kinds; and I’ve heard all the stories:
- She’s my best friend
- She thinks she’s my best friend
- We are twins
- We could not be more different
- We hardly talk
- She tries to control my life
- She lives vicariously through me
- We click and clash
- I’m turning into her
- How many times is she going to ask me about grandkids?
The list goes on and on, and I’m sure you can relate to more than one portrayal throughout different points of your life. But if there’s anything I know to be true, it’s that our Moms are irreplaceable. Regardless of how we feel about them, accepting them and loving them is an empowering and beautiful thing to do. Not only that, but allowing ourselves to feel gratitude for all that they do is a daily reminder I am guilty of forgetting. They need, deserve, and warrant our thanks. Need convincing? Here’s why.
8. You can never really gross her out.
You know those really embarrassing rashes, mysterious spots, or just plain “what in the world is going on here” health/bodily scares that even your best friend could potentially throw up at the sight of? Well, there’s one person who could really never be grossed out by it—and even if they are, their concern for their baby takes over and before you know it you’re 36 and eating your Mom’s chicken noodle soup.
7. She always has your best interest in mind.
Yes, it is VERY annoying when she points out all of the red flags in your new boyfriend that you’d rather ignore. It’s even more frustrating when she clearly sees the glitches in your most recent life decision that you’re ready to run with. BUT, the only reason these acknowledgements are irritating is because 99.9% of the time, she’s right. (I only leave the .1% for the time my Mom didn’t like my new dance move.) She only sees the potential setbacks because she has your best interest in mind, and is the only person in the world who can point it out to you in pure sincerity. So before you get all, “But MOM…” on her, think about why she’s doing it in the first place.
6. She will never get sick of cooking for you.
This is a win-win situation for everyone involved. And as much as I love Spaghettios, nothing compares to her Chicken & Goop. Let’s be real.
5. She tells stories about your childhood.
I think we can all agree that it’s one of the sweetest things in the world to hear your Mom tell stories about your youth. It’s a good reminder that we were at one point so carefree and innocent. It’s also that one connection, memory, and piece of history that will never change. Apple comes out with iPhone 67, your Mom still talks about the time you named your Christmas tree “Bob” … or was that just me?
4. There’s no way she could ever stop liking you.
That’s weird to say, right? But think about it. This world is so obsessed with “who likes me?” and “who doesn’t?” whether we admit it to ourselves or not. There’s even a “Like” button on Facebook that could literally change someone’s day if we choose to click it. It’s exhausting and sometimes grueling to our self-esteem. But no matter how much of a fool you might look like on Saturday night, your Mom will still like you. That’s a fact.
3. She will always put you first.
Sometimes even our closest friends will put their needs before ours—it’s only human. We are all guilty of this. But the second our mothers knew we were coming into this world, they innately began putting our needs before theirs. So when you call her at 3AM because you drank too much and need a ride, it’s only natural that she makes herself a cup of coffee and hits the road even though she has that big meeting the next day.
2. “I’m fine” will never work on her.
You know when you’ve been having the world’s worst day and the second you hear your Mom’s voice on the other end of the phone it all comes pouring out? Hiding feelings around your Mom is like trying not to smile when Ryan Gosling walks into a room. It. Just. Doesn’t. Work. For some reason, there’s a radar in our soul that’s like, “Oh, your Mom is here now… let that shit go.” And we do. And sometimes, yes, it is infuriating that we can’t seem to keep it together, but she’s the only person in the world who can actually make it better. So it works. There will be days like this, mama said.
1. She brought you into this world.
Have you thanked your Mom recently for this? It seems crazy—but every now and then my Mom will hug me and say, “I made you.” It’s when I feel most connected to her, and possibly even most loved. Because sometimes we could not be more different. Other times we could not be more alike. We are each other’s best teammate and worst enemy, but she made me. I am a piece of her, and am only in this life through her. (And the man upstairs.) (…and I guess my Dad, too.) Ew. But you get it. We need to thank them; because we are them.